In providing a mediation service, I am seeking to provide a compassionate, peaceful and cost-effective alternative for families going through a difficult transition.
I came to mediation following a 15-year career in litigation because I wanted to offer support to families that the court-system simply could not provide. I experienced first-hand the true cost of litigation – both personally and professionally. As an adult, I witnessed my own parents go through a protracted divorce litigation that was emotionally devastating for our family. As a professional, I knew the ins-and-outs of litigation that made the path of dispute resolution more painful, more inefficient, and more expensive for those litigating.
There are many transitions in life, a good number of which are well supported. We enjoy celebrations, gifts and encouragement when we graduate from school, get married or have a child. We receive condolences and emotional care when a family member dies. But when there’s a divorce, too often the transition is shrouded in fear and isolation. Divorcing individuals feel the immediate press to call a lawyer and initiate an expensive litigation process that often drains them emotionally and financially. During litigation, there is also the issue of distorted communication. Once you and your soon-to-be-ex-spouse hire lawyers, you are communicating through those lawyers and are often forced to partake in a formal process of disclosure and discovery.
With a traditional divorce, imagine how distressing it is answering a lawyer’s questions about private family matters as a court reporter records every word? Or walking through the sterile halls of courthouse, going through security scans, and attending a public court hearing before a judge in which any member of the public can attend? Or knowing that a significant portion of your assets are being siphoned off to cover mounting attorney fees?