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Ten Things to Have on Your Divorce Mediation Checklist

By Jim Robenalt

The Top 10 Things to Have On Your Divorce Mediation Checklist.

Every 2.3 of 1000 marriages end in divorce, and this is across approximately 45 US states. The good news is that more divorcing couples are opting for mediation instead of court proceedings.

If you’re in this situation, we have created a divorce mediation checklist to help you prepare. Here are the top 10 things you should remember for a peaceful divorce in Ohio and Cleveland.

  1. Prepare a Divorce Mediation Checklist

When going through divorce mediation, it is vital to understand what you need to discuss clearly. This will help you stay focused during the process and ensure that your needs are met. Here are some things you might include on a divorce mediation checklist:

Division of Assets and Debts

You and your spouse must decide how to divide your assets and debts. This includes everything from home and vehicles to savings accounts and retirement plans. It is crucial to clearly understand what you own and owe so that you can come to an agreement that is fair for both parties.

Appraise your home and vehicles to get a clear understanding of their worth. If you and your spouse have vehicles, you must decide who will get which vehicle. You will also need to figure out how to handle outstanding car loans.

You will need to determine how to divide savings accounts and retirement plans, including traditional and ROTH accounts. You will also need to decide what to do with any credit card debt, medical bills, or other debts you may have.

Child Custody Arrangements

One of your objectives in a divorce s determining child custody arrangements if you have children. This includes deciding who the children will live with and how much time they will spend with each parent. When making these decisions, it is essential to consider what is in the children’s best interest.

Visitation and holiday schedules are also worked out during mediation. This includes deciding when the non-custodial parent will visit with the children and how the holidays will be spent.

Child support will also need to be addressed. Who pays child support depends on a number of factors including the number of children, the amount of time the parents have with their children, and their respective incomes.

Financial Settlement

Another objective you may have is to reach a financial settlement. This means agreeing on how much money each party will receive. This can be a complex process, but it is important to be fair and consider the needs of both parties.

If you or your spouse own a business, you must decide how to handle this during the divorce. This can include determining who will keep the company, a valuation of the company, and how to divide the assets.

If you or your spouse are requesting alimony, you will need to provide financial information and agree on the payment amount and duration.


You will need to decide how to handle your taxes after the divorce. This includes determining who will claim the children as dependents and how to file your taxes.

Retirement Plans

If you have retirement plans, you will need to decide how to divide them. This can be a complex process, so it is essential to seek the advice of a financial planner.

It is important to understand your finances after the divorce. This includes creating a budget and determining how you will live independently.

Gather All Documents

Before meeting with a divorce mediator, one of the first things you should do is gather all relevant documents. This includes financial records such as tax returns, bank statements, and investment portfolios. You should also have documents related to property ownership, such as the deed to your home or other real estate holdings.

Having these documents on hand will make it easier for divorce mediators to understand your situation and come up with solutions that work for everyone involved. If you have any questions about which documents you need, your attorney can help you compile the necessary paperwork.

Know Your Rights

The law can be complex and confusing when dealing with sensitive issues like divorce, so it is essential to understand your rights under the law clearly. This will help you know what you are entitled to and the options available during mediation.

With this knowledge, you can make informed decisions in your best interests. If you feel that your rights are being violated, you will be able to take action to protect yourself. Knowing your rights is the first step in ensuring that you receive fair treatment during mediation.

Be Prepared to Compromise

In mediation, both parties must be willing to compromise to reach a fair agreement for everyone involved. Mediation may not be the right option for you if you are not willing to compromise. The divorce mediator will help you and your spouse identify the areas where you agree and disagree and facilitate discussion to help you reach an agreement.

However, the mediator cannot force you to agree to anything, and if you and your spouse cannot reach an agreement, the mediation process will end, and you will have to go to court.


Communicating with your spouse or partner is essential when conclusing your marriage. However, it can sometimes be challenging to express your needs and concerns.

Divorce mediation is designed to be a safe space for open dialogue so that both parties can express their needs and find common ground. This process can help you to communicate your needs and resolve conflict.

Be Respectful

During the process, you must be respectful of yourself and your spouse/partner. This includes refraining from making personal attacks or using threatening language. The divorce proceedings can be emotionally charged, and it is easy to say things you regret later.

Maintaining a respectful attitude can help keep the proceedings on track and avoid further hurt feelings.


Divorce mediation provides an opportunity for divorcing couples to sit down and discuss the terms of their divorce with the help of a neutral third party. Although both parties need a chance to speak, listening to what the other person is saying is just as important. Listening will help you to understand the other person’s perspective and find common ground more quickly.

It is also important to remember that mediation is not a competition, and both parties should strive to find a fair and equitable resolution, not trying to “win” the mediation. With that in mind, listening during mediation can go a long way toward helping you reach an amicable divorce.

Be Patient

The mediation process is a helpful way to resolve disputes, but it is essential to remember that rushing into an agreement may not be in your best interests in the long run. The mediation process can take some time, be patient and allow it to run its course.

Rushing into an agreement may result in one that is not acceptable to all parties, which could lead to further legal disputes.

Trust the Mediator

Mediation is a process in which an impartial third party helps both sides to communicate and reach a mutually agreeable resolution. It can be an effective way to settle disagreements, but it requires both parties to trust the divorce mediator to facilitate an effective process. The mediator’s job is to help both parties reach a fair and beneficial agreement.

Trust them to do their job well! If you go into mediation with an open mind and a willingness to compromise, you will come out of it with a resolution that everyone can live with.

Review Marital Settlement Agreement

When you have reached a mediation agreement, you will then have to file legal documents reflecting the agreement you arrived at during mediation.

It is important to take the time to review the terms of the agreement before signing it. Once you sign the deal, it will be binding, so you want to ensure that you understand and agree with all of the terms. If there are any terms that you do not understand, be sure to ask the mediator or your attorney to explain them to you.

Reviewing and understanding the agreement before you sign it will help to ensure that you are happy with the terms of your divorce.

A Mediator You Can Trust

Divorce mediation is an effective way to reach a fair and amicable divorce agreement.

Following this divorce mediation checklist can help ensure that you are prepared for your mediation sessions and know what to expect from the process. With clear objectives, open communication, and a willingness to compromise, mediation will help you reach an agreement that works well for everyone involved.

Next Page Mediation is here to help you through this complex and emotional process. We are dedicated to helping you reach a fair and beneficial agreement for all parties involved. Contact us today to get started.

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